Six Children
Before you go any further, there is some disturbing content in this article that is unsuitable for people under 18.
This has been quite a year so far for children of transitioners and people are more aware of us than ever before. From the revelations about Jan Morris and his treatment of his daughter to the remarkable courage of Ceri-Lee Galvin to speak out about her sex offender father, to the ‘spousal exit clause’ of the GRA, we’ve been bubbling about in the public consciousness a lot. There is much to write about, but I want to focus here on six children. There are clearly many, many more. What we are asking again and again is: who is looking out for these children? Where is the safeguarding? Often, these things are happening in plain sight and we think that we need to stop and cast an objective eye on them.
The first child is Tucker, the son of Chris Tyson, a collaborator of YouTube star Mr Beast. It’s a measure of how fragmented modern media is that I had never heard about someone with 140m followers, but Mr Beast is indeed a hugely successful content creator and one with a massive following of children. Tyson has been working with Mr Beast for several years. He recently came out as transgender on Mr Beast’s show, introducing many young children to the concept not only of a man taking hormones and being ‘trans’, but also that this is something that dads do.
In response to public criticism, Tyson responded:
From ‘Unilad’: In a follow-up tweet, Chris said they decided to start hormone replacement therapy to give their son the happiest, best version of themselves.
“I know I’m going to be a great parent, and so is every other person who puts the love of their child before everything,” they wrote.
“I made this decision because I wanted to show up as my best and happiest self for him. In a way, this was FOR Tucker.”
In all the years of writing speeches in my head of things I would like to tell my father if he would only listen, it’s basically distilled into this: You loved this more than you loved me. That’s the nagging thought that hurts my heart. It’s the one that insists that there was something about me that was unlovable because if he really loved me he wouldn’t have done it.
But even my father wouldn’t have gone so far as to say he was doing any of it for me, fortunately. The gaslighting is off the charts, but incredibly nothing that people around Tyson are willing to challenge. And here again, just like Ezra Miller, we see a man alone with a child. According to Reduxx, Tucker’s parents have now separated, presumably because of Tyson’s transition.
Tyson is also posting pictures of his son crossdressing:
All of this is about normalising crossdressing for his son. It’s more than just innocent dressing up when your dad is telling you that it makes him a woman. There is also some disturbing stuff about Tyson’s interest in ‘Lolita’ anime porn. What ties all of these stories together is not just a trans parent but also a sexual element which seems connected to their behaviour around their children. Here Tyson is explicit about finding images of young girls sexually exciting yet sees no harm in posting pictures of his son in heels. He’s so blatantly allowed to do anything he likes that it clearly didn’t occur to him not to post sexual content or pictures of his child.
And now Tucker is probably the most famous child of a transitioner in the world, after Caitlyn Jenner’s children, and can’t possibly escape that notoriety and the pressure to be his father’s means of public and private validation.
More on Tyson here:
“Mr. Beast” Sidekick’s Social Media History Under Scrutiny Following Gender Transition – Reduxx
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Then we heard about four children involved in this very upsetting story from South Boston, where police called to an apartment found a dead man they identified as transgender and a filthy apartment full of alcohol, drugs and sex toys. The six other transgender-identified men were uncooperative, according to police, and hid the fact that four children were being kept in a back room. When the children were found, the man in the room with them claimed to be their father.
Kids, ‘drugs, sex toys,’ dead man in South Boston apartment: ‘Sickening’ (bostonherald.com)
Some deliberate obfuscation seems to be happening to cover up how bad this was:
What Happened In South Boston? – by JL – The Glinner Update (substack.com)
My understanding is that these children (none older than 10 years old) have now been taken into care. Perhaps one day we will discover how four children were in that apartment with six men, sex toys, drugs… and a dead body. Is this what happens when you ignore the sexual element of transition? Was there any social worker attached to these children?
Changing the story of the case means that these children do not receive the protection that should be their due as members of society. The laws are there to protect us – but why aren’t they being applied for us?
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Finally, a child came to light through a genuinely bizarre news item on the UK’s ITV channel and has since raised a great deal of awareness about the desire of trans fathers to ‘breastfeed’ babies. It started with a news story about London water company Thames Water’s financial crisis, and concerns about rising bills. At the end of the news segment, a man appears to complain that it’s… “tough if you’re a Mum like me already struggling to get the things that my kid needs.” It’s odd to say the least. He’s loading a tiny amount of clothing into a washing machine (Saving water? How?) and is also filmed washing up a breast pump!
Debt-ridden Thames Water could face nationalisation by government as it faces collapse | ITV News (from 2.40)
Clip here: https://twitter.com/genderisharmful/status/1674302521655934977?s=20“
Of course, the detectives of the Internet immediately went to work and unearthed some even more bizarre information about this piece. For a start, the man in question, Mika Minio-Paluello, is an environmental activist and employed by the TUC. So, a man on a decent wage. Not a woman struggling on minimum wages or benefits. An odd choice, surely.
Labour MP Rosie Duffield pointed out that this was a lost opportunity to showcase a genuinely struggling mother; and this then opened her up to awful abuse from trans activists.
Further digging on the Internet revealed that Mika had been dreaming about having a baby via a uterus transplant nearly a decade ago and that he had enjoyed having a woman help him try on nipple clamps in a ‘feminist’ sex shop in Berlin.
So I’m sure it’s no surprise to anyone that his next trick was to post a picture of him ‘feeding’ his baby.
I’ve become increasingly convinced that the thrill for men in posting these images is in knowing that women will see it and be upset. There is something repulsive in seeing a man doing this, given how obvious his sexual motivation is.
Twitter, as you can imagine, brought out the trans activists willing to justify any behaviour as long as it’s by a trans person, with clearly false statements such as that the milk from a man is more healthy than that from a woman.
I found it not only distressing to witness but also profoundly upsetting to realise that this is now being normalised among trans identified men with babies.
The Daily Mail has weighed in on the issue, highlighting the fact that drug-induced milk from men can resemble ‘mature milk’ from a woman (without the nutrition of colostrum) but that the drugs used to bring on the milk can harm the baby. Domperidone, for example, can damage a child’s heart:
I think the Daily Mail tried to skirt around the idea of fetish and suggest it a little by the inclusion of ‘Naomi’, e.g. ‘Nominal.Naomi’, who is notorious for having a ‘breastfeeding’ OnlyFans account (he claims to be in the top 3% of earners on the site). Naomi uses ‘human cow’ language and imagery. I really suggest you don’t search on his name!
You don’t have to search far to find men making money online from lactation.
It’s not emotionally healthy, and certainly not physically healthy for the child. The issue of male induced lactation and health was analysed in more detail here by author Milli Hill:
She concludes: “Trans women claim that the experience of nursing is ‘gender-affirming’. In other words, it makes them feel more ‘female’. But ‘affirming’ an adult’s feelings is not the point of breastfeeding.
As much as a mum may wish at 3am that men could breastfeed, too, it seems that the male body just isn’t built to nourish and support a child in this way. It feels extraordinary to have to say it, but long-term breastfeeding really is something special that only female people can do.
It seems to me that going to great lengths to induce a small amount of milk in a male body does nothing to serve either women, or the person who, of course, should be at the centre of any breastfeeding experience — the baby.”
What we want more than anything is for children of transitioners to be protected, physically and emotionally, from our parents’ damaging behaviours. There are laws that could be used to protect us.
As children, we are vulnerable to our parents and we depend on having someone who will act for us. We don’t have the power to stand up for ourselves or challenge high profile people or powerful organisations. We don’t have the ability to navigate the protections the state should be providing us.
Mika’s claim on TV to be a ‘mother’ should not go unchallenged. The popularity of TV programmes like ‘Long Lost Family’ highlight our deep need as humans to know the truth about our parentage. We need to know who is our mother and our father. We need to name our parents and know who gave birth to us. I wrote about the importance of recognising our mothers here:
The laws that should protect us from our father claiming he is our mother:
- The UN Convention on the Rights of the Child (CRC) is the most ratified law on international human rights in the world. Articles 7 and 8 cover our need for our parents to be named as father and mother.
Excerpts from Articles 7 and 8:
Article 7 1. The child shall be registered immediately after birth and shall have … the right to know … his or her parents.
Article 8 1. States Parties undertake to respect the right of the child to preserve his or her identity, including nationality, name and family relations as recognized by law without unlawful interference.
- UK GRA Legislation
https://www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/2004/7/section/12 ‘Parenthood The fact that a person’s gender has become the acquired gender under this Act does not affect the status of the person as the father or mother of a child.’
- UK Supreme Court
https://www.judiciary.uk/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/TT-and-YY-APPROVED-Substantive-Judgment-McF-23.9.19.pdf Freddie McConnell wanted to be recorded as the father of the baby she gave birth to, so appealed against the GRA, but in court the importance of the terms ‘mother’ and ‘father’ were clearly discussed. McConnell’s ‘right’ to be ‘validated’ as ‘father’ must be weighed against the child’s right to know the truth. So Freddie lost the case. To be clear, even if our dad has a GRC saying he’s a woman, the fact he’s a father is not a secret and he can’t coerce anyone to lie about it, including us.
Lawyer Sarah Phillimore explains the case here:
Mika should have been challenged by ITV about calling himself a mother, or the item should have had a clarification from ITV. We have complained to ITV about this. The response was vague – ITV thinks this wasn’t very significant – but we have escalated this to OFCOM.
We need these laws to be enforced.
We urge everyone – especially journalists and those in positions of power – to respect the laws protecting children including CoTs, reality and our parenthood, the Human Rights Act and UN Rights of the Child. And thank you to MP Nick Fletcher for raising the issue of men ‘breastfeeding’ and safeguarding in Parliament. When we hear people taking these issues seriously it feels like the adults are back in the room.
Acknowledging that Mika is not a ‘mother’ is the first step towards challenging what he is doing to this child by ‘feeding’ it. There is a huge ethical issue here about doctors enabling him to give drug-tainted milk to a baby. If I fed a baby domperidone I would rightly be prosecuted. Was the domperidone in Mika’s case just given as part of his cancer treatment, or did a doctor prescribe it specifically so he could induce lactation?
Mika’s child should be protected from being given a substance that damages its health through the United Nations convention on the Rights of the Child 1992, which underpins most of the legislation regarding children. It upholds the child’s right to be treated as a unique person and have a high quality of life. The Human Rights Act 1998 covers the child’s right to be free of ‘inhumane or degrading treatment’, which I would argue is very much what is happening in the picture shared around the world of him being ‘fed’ by his father. The Children Act 1989 should ensure the child’s right to be healthy.
It’s rarely just one behaviour, and remember that a man ‘breastfeeding’ a child requires special drugs and it’s an extreme act. It might start with ‘breastfeeding’, but once the first violation of boundaries happens it can be easily followed by smaller incidents that just make a child uncomfortable all the time. Boundaries have already been violated.
For some children it may be watching your father ‘breastfeed’ a sibling, seeing sissy porn, being around ‘sex toys’ or fetish clothing, seeing your father’s new breasts or genitalia, not having bodily privacy when you are undressed. This week a support group for people with parents who are trans deleted a comment I made about the risk of sexual abuse – it’s more convenient to ignore it and pretend that everyone who talks about it is a ‘bigot.’ But our worst case scenarios do happen. We aren’t asking for anything more than the protections that any other child should have.
It can feel like screaming into a void – I’m looking at a picture of a man ‘feeding’ a child a substance laced with a drug that may damage its heart, for his own pleasure. And try as hard as I might, I can’t make everyone understand that it shouldn’t have happened and must not happen to any other children. Because this week 200 people signed an open letter supporting Mika and condemning the people who criticised him. These people included the leaders of powerful organisations and members of Parliament.
Solidarity with Mika – Level Up (welevelup.org)
There are a host of people with power and influence who would rather children of trans fathers risked a sudden cardiac death, as long as their father enjoyed his ‘gender euphoria’. I despair. We urgently need protection under the law – but it looks like it’s going to be an uphill struggle.
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