Schools Safeguarding Email from CoTs

by Anonymous

(This email raising safeguarding concerns  was sent to a school after it caused substantial distress to Cots in the school community by forcing celebration of all things trans/ sexual fetish related by children through ‘pride’. Email links have been changed to reflect the addresses in the new website) 

Please refer this email to the SAFEGUARDING LEAD and Headteacher.

We are the ‘children of transitioners’ group and have been asked to contact you by one of our local members.

We support those who have a ‘trans’ parent- most of us have a father who says he is a woman, and is determined to access female changing rooms/ toilets etc -anywhere  girls are undressed- and to involve women/ children in their sexual fantasies.  The government considered our evidence about this in their ‘self ID’ consultation several years ago.

link here:

https://childrenoftransitioners.org/gra-inquiry-submission

This is often due to sexual paraphilias and porn addiction, including  voyeurism/ flashing/ paedophilia. You can read more about our experience here:

https://childrenoftransitioners.org/not-shutting-up

We are writing to you because we share local concerns that the school is making it even harder for victims of abuse by men like our dads to report it in your school community. Many children of transitioners – like other CSA victims- do not report it for years. Many schools don’t know anything about our home life or dads – and never find out- unless/ until social services/ police are involved,  because victims are so torn by parental loyalty and fear of what will happen it takes years to get the courage to speak up.

We understand your intention in celebrating Pride with the children was probably well meant and you did not intend to make it harder for CSA victims, including  of men who say they are women to speak out, but this is what you have done. There is a massive difference between supporting LGB kids -and celebrating Pride nowadays. Crossdressers and men with paraphilias are now part of the pride umbrella, and a major push has been to normalise male sexual fetish and get girls to lie men are women and get undressed in front of them. (We were particularly distressed about the case in Scotland, where a little girl got into a man’s car and was seriously sexually abused, as she had been lied to that ‘transwomen are women’- (which some media outlets did not report!).  https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-scotland-65610429 but sadly abuse by men like our dads is not rare: https://transcrimeuk.com/ )

We hope this email will be taken in the spirit it is intended- to safeguard children and help your naive staff consider more how to safeguard all children- there is further info about this on our website. Coercive control and domestic, emotional and sexual abuse are common in our families- in nearly all cases by the male transitioner- and children should never be groomed to believe men are women or humans can change sex, or that girls have to get undressed in front of males. We have written a basic explainer here if this issue is new to your staff: https://childrenoftransitioners.org/how-to-help-children-of-transitioners/

We  hope this is helpful and  the Safeguarding  Lead in future ensures  the school safeguards all the children in your care, rather than allowing activist staff to  groom them into taking part in celebrating mens’ sexual paraphilias and fantasies. Sadly the pretty Pride flags are a far cry from the reality and trauma of many of children of transitioners’ lives.