Links – Childrenoftransitioners.org

The voices of women whose partner has transitioned.

4^th Wave Now is a site founded by the mother of a daughter who at one point identified as transgender. She has collected a lot of information on transgenderism and has a links page with some resources for children of transitioners (although you have to scroll down a lot!)

https://4thwavenow.com/ Main page

https://4thwavenow.com/resource-index/ Resource Index

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Mumsnet’s famous ‘Trans Widows’ thread is huge, and is an important place moment for wives of transitioners to talk.

https://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/3101834-trans-widows-escape-committee

https://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/3668898-trans-widows-escape-committee-3-rise-of-the-trans-widows

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Psychological Impact: The Wives

This is a great analysis of Diana Aitchison’s speech in 1998 at the Gendys Conference in 1998. In the UK, the Beaumont Society was a very influential voice for male crossdressers, and also had a newsletter for transsexuals that my father subscribed to. This speech recognises the reality for many trans widows – sadly this is as true today, and still under-recognised. Thank you to @STILLTish for the analysis.

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Sharon Thrace’s TED talk was something I found very helpful. She is a former partner of a transitioner, whose transition came about through his use of ‘tranny porn’. When she says that people don’t want her to tell her story, because it contradicts the popular narrative of transition, it really resonates. Children of transitioners may find this familiar too. Thrace’s partner, Jamie, gave no indication that he might be transgender until his porn use. If your father’s transition is alienating you and other members of your family it might be for this reason.

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Colage.org has a page of resources for children of trans people. Colage is very pro-trans, so please beware that it has a particular agenda.

https://www.colage.org/resources/people-with-trans-parents/

A book I found very helpful – I wish I had this at 16! – is ‘Children of the Self-Absorbed’ by Nina W. Brown.